Matt and I are not married...we are just shackin up. We have now been shacked up for the past 3-4 years. We have been together for the past 7-8 years. It really doesn't bother me that we are not married. I never give much thought to it actually. I do plan to be with him for the rest of my life, and I feel that in my heart we are already married. That being said, I think it bothers others a lot.
There was the one time that my friend and I were discussing relationships and I offered advice about her husband. She replied, "You are Matt are not married though, so you just wouldn't understand." Excuse me...WHAT!? Also, I get a lot of questions from family members..Do y'all EVER plan on getting married?? Sometimes I think people talk about me behind my back.."Poor thing, HE just won't marry HER."
Sometimes I do feel silly when having to refer to him as my boyfriend. It almost sounds as if my relationship is not as important as some of my friend's relationships who have been with their husband/wife a lot less time than we have been together.
So here it goes..
1. We are trying to live a debt free life. We do have debt but we are working on it and trying not to create anymore.
2. Matt would like to be able to buy me a nice ring. I don't care but it is important to him. (it's a guy thing)
3. We live in PA, a million miles away from all of our friends and family, so it would be very hard to plan a wedding with anyone in attendance.
4. I am not sure a courthouse wedding feels right for us.
5. We would like to be able to afford a nice honeymoon.
6. In our hearts we are married already, and I don't think we are wrong in God's eyes.
7. I never even think about it until someone comments on it, like accidently calling him my husband, giggling and correcting it to boyfriend.
8. Our relationship will probably oulast lots of people's marriages that are properly married.
9. I am fine with it..honestly.
10. If I wasn't everyone would know it.
Thnak you everyone for all of your concerns...now back to our regularly scheduled program!
